I intuitively take a coaching approach in my HR practice and find increasingly that all of my conversations are of a coaching nature.
So, what is coaching? Is it another name for counselling? Is it crystal ball gazing? Or is it something more mysterious altogether?!
I started my ILM 7 journey in April 2017 and I am so excited about the added value I am going to be able to bring to my clients’ lives and businesses, to say nothing of the value that it will bring to me and mine.
Why then is it so powerful? Well, did you know we have 3 brains?! There’s your brain brain (the logical one in your head), your heart brain (your passion and compassion) and your gut brain (the one that tells you instinctively if something is wrong – always listen to that one!). The coaching I am learning more about teaches us to connect our three brains, to get out of our heads and to connect more fully with our emotions.
There is a direct link between our emotional health and our physical health. We all know that stress is bad for you, but did you know there is almost certainly an emotional link to strokes, cancer, migraines and a whole host of other ailments?
Learning to tune in to ourselves is part of the journey to self-awareness and understanding ourselves better. The role of the coach is to support that journey with incisive questions, gentle but firm challenge, and support.
Coaching is about change and transformation, it’s about challenging present perceptions, removing limitations and developing new ways of thinking. There is a difference between skills coaching (like sports coaching or training), performance coaching (which seeks to enhance the client’s performance more generally, often through feedback) and developmental or transformational coaching which holds up a mirror for clients so they can see their own thinking process. The developmental coach creates the right conditions for reflective learning, taking a holistic approach to the individual and believing that the client is resourceful and has the answers to his or her own ‘problems’.
Coaching is unlocking a person’s potential to maximize their own performance, without making any assumptions and through noticing how they feel as they move through their ‘story’. We are all born pure and perfect, but throughout our lives we pick up experiences, beliefs, prejudices and perceptions, and these have an impact on how we filter and receive information. When we recount our stories it is common for us only to recall the bits we choose to remember, the sub conscious having ‘deleted’ other parts of the same story. Which bits of your story have you chosen to remember? Which bits have you chosen to forget?
If you would like to know more, or would like some HR, development or coaching support I would love to hear from you at firstname.lastname@example.org.